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TheAnonymousMan wrote:Hi Barbara
At least these people had enough respect for you to NOT say something like "Pffttt are you joking?" or "Haha, good one Barbara that one made me laugh" when you asked them for an interview.
I don't feel you should be getting so worked up just because a couple of authors did not respond to your invitation. At least you are trying to generate interviews rather than being too scared of rejection from the authors you associate with.
You're doing a great job and if someone does not want to get on your bandwagon you a) won't be doing them any favours in the future nor do you owe them any and b) when your website takes off the people who did help you, will have their publications seen by many.
Last but not least don't sweat the small stuff!
mphcoach wrote:I believe that there is a division in the world of 'givers' and 'takers'.
Neither is 'bad', just different.
The givers have a natural tendency to go the extra mile to help others and often don't expect anything in return (although they can get annoyed when they give all the time with little return). They usually acknowledge others who help them (after all, it's part of being a giver).
Takers are more able to absorb without acknowledgment and they don't even know it, bless them. It's like there is a blind spot when it comes to naturally giving and this can really irritate if it is consistent.
If givers can acknowledge that takers aren't being wilful and takers learn to acknowledge when others do stuff for them, the two will get on fine.
It can be quite a learning curve though, as both tend to see the other throught heir own eyes.
If you are one rather than the other, try it - you might be amazed by the results of wearing the other's shoes for a while.
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A simple thank you would be a wonderful thing
mphcoach wrote:I'm always amazed how frequently I find managers that I work with fail to say thank you to their people.
Even when I raise the issue, they try it for a bit and then forget. I believe it#s the easiest and cheaqpest invetsment a manager can make in their team.
Maybe they are 'takers' - yet, sometimes for success we have to learn new skills and move beyond what is who we are typically in ourselves.
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OmnivoreInk wrote:But some people say no. Well...they don't say no, they just don't bother to respond at all.
And that really annoys me. I don't mind being turned down for an interview, but I'd like the courtesy of a reply. Even saying "Sorry, your publication is too small to bother with" is less rude than not even answering at all!
Because you don't know if they never got your email, or if they're just being rude!
But when you've had an email conversation with them on another subject, so that you know they're getting your emails, and then you ask for an interview and all of a sudden...silence... you know they're just being rude.
jvprosperity wrote:Another way to look at it is that if we don't get a "No" then we can assume that they just haven't made up their mind yet and continue to pursue the relationship by providing as much value to them as possible along with our pitches.
Pig-headed-persistence! (I have nothing against against the other white meat :OP)
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