Politeness!

[OmnivoreInk]

I went into my local Walmart today, outside the door were a couple of cubscouts, or perhaps boyscouts, collecting donations for their troop.

I'm not sure how old they were, but had to be 10-13, or thereabouts.

Anyway, I gave one kid a dollar, and the other kid 90 cents, and I didn't hear a thank you from either one of 'em!

I expect that from kids in general, heck, even adults these days, but I always thought cub scouts and boy scouts were taught manners?

[ideasuniversity]

You would have asked this " and what do you say?" They should be able to say thank you after this and will remind them to thank any other person that give to them. Any way the Bible had made it clear that in the latter days people will be ungrateful. This is the latter days and we should expect more of this.

[GT Bulmer]

The Scouts were probably nervous and very uncomfortable doing what they were being made to do, and that is understandable. I put the onus on the leaders to properly coach and encourage the attending Scouts to be properly appreciative towards contributors. I see this instance as a possible failing of the leaders. Perhaps the leaders would benefit from a letter offering friendly feedback?

GT :-]

[topeyinka]

This is something we shouldnt over look,some words are very important in live such as THANK YOU,AM SORRY and so on.whether in the lives of our children or we as adult.In our dealing with others we have to take note of this words.
tope

[Kevin Lee]

I went into my local Walmart today, outside the door were a couple of cubscouts, or perhaps boyscouts, collecting donations for their troop.

I'm not sure how old they were, but had to be 10-13, or thereabouts.

Anyway, I gave one kid a dollar, and the other kid 90 cents, and I didn't hear a thank you from either one of 'em!

I expect that from kids in general, heck, even adults these days, but I always thought cub scouts and boy scouts were taught manners?

Hi Barbara,

Do you think by any chance those kids were unimpressed by your small donation (NOT that it should matter)?

I'd put the blame on the parents and scout leaders as GT mentioned.

[Alan Mater]

I'd also put the blame on the parents and scout leaders.

This leads to the question, "would those boys' parents or leaders even say thank you?"

It's all about how kids are raised and what values are instilled in them. You can tell a lot about how a kid is brought up simply by watching what they do and say.

You will find many adults are the same way. Non-appreciative and self-centered. As ideasuniversity pointed out, this is the latter days and people, among other things, will only continue to get worse.

All we can do is be a light in this dark world and lead by example.

Alan

[JBunion]

That's awful. I was always taught to be courteous to people even if they hate your guts. I was always asked by friends and friends' parents though why I would say thank you to everyone I came into contact with. It was just a natural thing, something I thought people would appreciate. I thought this kind of thing was common sense - but surprisingly enough, it seems our world is more focussed on individual greed and lust. We've lost our sense of being. It's truly disappointing.

[lisa]

Cub scouts might have not satisfied with the amount you paid. Sometimes it happens, they expect more from you but when you give them little money they get upset and do not even bother to say THANK YOU

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[Anelly]

These days children are very different of how we were. I just look at my sister and i see the differences. It's difficult dealing with kids.

[ndasika]

Hi,

It is a sad thing to see people ignoring basic words like thank you, but for the kids I would not blame them. I would blame their parents. When we were young, my mother used to tell us that she will teach us only three statements and these three statements will take us places. These three statements are: Thank you, Please and I am Sorry.

[Alan Mater]

Hi,

It is a sad thing to see people ignoring basic words like thank you, but for the kids I would not blame them. I would blame their parents. When we were young, my mother used to tell us that she will teach us only three statements and these three statements will take us places. These three statements are: Thank you, Please and I am Sorry.

I commend your mother. I wish all parents taught their kids these statements as well as how to be respectful to others.

Whether the scouts received less money than they wanted or not, they should be thankful to receive anything at all. It's the fault of the parents for not instilling good values in them.

[mbrand2222]

All we can do is be a light in this dark world and lead by example.

Alan

This is so true, Alan.
I used to teach 3rd grade. When I passed out treats most of them were really good about saying thank you, but there were always those few who didn't at the beginning of the year. As soon as I put it on their desk, if I didn't hear a thank you by the time I was going to the next one, I snatched it back. It didn't take long for all of them to learn that saying thank you was a requirement in my room. So was please. Sometimes just telling a child what they have to do, isn't good enough. It's not until they "lose" some "benefits" that they realize manners will get them things they wouldn't have had without them.
I do believe it takes a village to raise a child. The more people they see using manners around them, the sooner they realize they should, too.

[Alan Mater]

All we can do is be a light in this dark world and lead by example.

Alan

This is so true, Alan.
I used to teach 3rd grade. When I passed out treats most of them were really good about saying thank you, but there were always those few who didn't at the beginning of the year. As soon as I put it on their desk, if I didn't hear a thank you by the time I was going to the next one, I snatched it back. It didn't take long for all of them to learn that saying thank you was a requirement in my room. So was please. Sometimes just telling a child what they have to do, isn't good enough. It's not until they "lose" some "benefits" that they realize manners will get them things they wouldn't have had without them.
I do believe it takes a village to raise a child. The more people they see using manners around them, the sooner they realize they should, too.

Providing an incentive is a great way to teach children manners and politeness. I remember back when I was in 4th grade our teacher gave us prizes for sitting still and being quiet right before the end of school. Throughout the year it was just out of control, so she decided to reward those that behaved. Eventually you had every kid sitting still and being quiet. There's something about earning something that makes kids listen. This is the same basic idea, and it's great to see how you used it to teach kids to say please and thank you. Those two phrases will get them very far in life.

[mbrand2222]

All we can do is be a light in this dark world and lead by example.

Alan

Providing an incentive is a great way to teach children manners and politeness. I remember back when I was in 4th grade our teacher gave us prizes for sitting still and being quiet right before the end of school. Throughout the year it was just out of control, so she decided to reward those that behaved. Eventually you had every kid sitting still and being quiet. There's something about earning something that makes kids listen. This is the same basic idea, and it's great to see how you used it to teach kids to say please and thank you. Those two phrases will get them very far in life.

I used to have a system called Brand Bucks that would allow them to earn tokens that they could buy prizes with. I gave them out for positive actions and took some back for negative. It worked really well. They hated giving them up because they each had a prize they were saving for.

[Kevin Lee]

I sometimes find that people these days will actually go out of their way to be rude when filing a complaint. For instance, why can't a customer just say a simple "no thank you" rather than writing in an angry tone or making threats?

Of course the customer is always right, so as professionals we have to suck it in and be the bigger person... but is there a better way to deal with rude clients?

When I used to work at McDonald's, I recall the store manager actually yelled back at the customer who shouted profanities at a teenage employee since the order was taking so long. While the store manager didn't use any vulgar language, he still firmly told the customer to leave the store because he wouldn't serve someone who was so rude.